How to thrive as a woman

There are more women than ever before in the cabinet, but how can female MPs, and women everywhere, thrive in male-dominated environments without acting like one of the boys? Presentation skills coach Emma Stroud shares her tips on harnessing feminine strengths in order to succeed 20 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies Prime Minister David Cameron has appointed seven women to his new government, now making up a third of the cabinet. A first for any UK government, and while we may still have a long way to go, it’s a step forward for women in politics. So, how can the newly promoted female politicians hold their own in such a male-dominated environment? And how can women everywhere thrive in the ‘boys club’? Presentation skills coach Emma Stroud from The Pitch […]

Our families disapprove of our relationship

Our agony aunt, Mary Fenwick, offers a new perspective on your challenges and problems 20 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies My boyfriend and I have been going out for four years; we are very much in love, and have been talking about getting married. However, we have different faiths and my family has made it perfectly clear that they will never accept our relationship. My boyfriend told me that his family has given us their blessing, but he has now decided that he is not in favour of a civil ceremony, mainly because he thinks it likely that my family will harm his family if he marries me in a ceremony that is not religious. I have a feeling that his family are talking him out of it because they […]

What kind of learner are you?

Studying for that exam or learning your presentation can be hard work at the best of times. But are you learning in the most productive way for you? 19 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies Graham Allcott, author of How To Be A Knowledge Ninja explains how to find out how you learn best… Visual You are at your best when you can ‘see’ what you are learning. You like visual aids, graphs, drawings and symbols, and often learn by memorising where you see things. Auditory You learn best by listening, to lectures or in discussions. You might remember things by saying them out loud, or memorising them to songs. Kinaesthetic You prefer to learn via the ‘lived’ experience, through moving, touching and doing – you like to explore and experiment. […]

What do people find attractive?

Every month, Sarah Abell invites you to try a 30-day experiment to improve your love life 3 FEBRUARY 2015 } by Psychologies The project Do you want a second date or to maintain a long-term relationship? Then forget about bragging – research shows both men and women are attracted by ‘humility’ in a prospective or long-term partner. The aim If you want to find or keep love, humility is a trait worth cultivating. Most people prefer someone who sees their strengths and weaknesses accurately, doesn’t hog the limelight and treats others well. The theory Have you ever fallen for an arrogant rogue or self-absorbed prima donna? If ‘yes’ then chances are it didn’t end happily, ever after. That might be why many of us prefer to have romantic relationships with […]

Embrace a joyful life

In the final part of our Balancer series, Eminé Ali Rushton looks back on what she learned by teaming up with Grace Belgravia for a holistic approach to health and happiness 18 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies This month’s column marks the end of the wonderfully fruitful collaboration between ourselves and the world-class wellbeing destination that is Grace Belgravia. Looking back on our six months, I can see that I’ve come a long way. I’ve met some extraordinary experts – people who’ve coaxed the lazy, demotivated me out of my tired shell, showing me that a good night’s sleep isn’t always the golden ticket. What can really count, I’ve learnt, is how we nourish ourselves. With extraordinary health-giving, seasonal, satisfying food, yes, but also with positive thoughts, reinforced every day, […]

How to find love online

Sarah Abell invites you to try a 30-day experiment to improve your love life 18 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies The project Ever spent hours creating the perfect online dating profile? Did you airbrush your best photo and carefully craft an amazing description? You might have been wasting your time. According to research, most people are looking for the perfect match – but not a perfect person.Successful, humble and real scores better. The aim To attract a potential mate online, the best thing you can do is be yourself and have a realistic, balanced profile. The theory Researchers at the University of Iowa set out to discover how people who use dating sites respond to different ways people present themselves online. They created eight online profiles of various combinations – […]

Do You Feel Lonely in Your Relationship?

By Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD Being single can feel lonely, but being in a relationship can feel lonely, too. If you’re in a relationship but still feel like you’re on your own emotionally, the fact that you have a partner is not much of a consolation. In fact, when you are together with your partner, you might even feel more alone because you’re with the very person who should be providing the closeness you need. You might be tempted to ignore the problem, hoping it will resolve itself, but this isn’t a good idea. You’ll likely just continue to feel lonely, and your relationship will get worse. So instead, consider your options to improve the situation, and then take action. If you’re feeling lonely in a relationship, you have three basic […]

When your family grows up

Penny Mansfield, director of One Plus One, explains how to reinforce your connection as a couple 1 JULY 2014 } by Psychologies When your children become older and need you less, it’s not uncommon to feel a vacuum has been created that is difficult to fill, and that as partners you are losing the glue that has bound you together. Often a couple find they have become a parenting alliance, rather than a partnership where there is intimacy. Here are three top tips to restore intimacy to your relationship: 1. Share with each other The qualities that make you good parents – working together, not undermining each other, a strong sense of sharing – also make you good partners. It’s vital to rediscover your emotional and physical connection. Acknowledge something […]

Five ways to help your loved one keep their cigarette cravings at bay

Has your loved one given up smoking? Here are five points in the day when their cravings could be at their peak and how you can help them cope 15 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies Many successful ex-smokers say quitting is the hardest thing they ever did, while nearly 70 per cent of people who currently smoke in the UK say they want to stop. If this applies to your partner, then you can play a vital role in supporting them on their journey. Anyone who has smoked for a long time will associate certain activities and times of the day with cigarettes. These trigger an urge to light up, but if the smoker can identify these key moments and find other ways to respond, they’re winning the battle. To […]

‘The better I feel, the less I dwell on what others think’

Our resident image expert Mandy Lehto talks to musician Hattie Briggs about dressing to be happy and using music as a muse.. 15 MAY 2015 } by Psychologies Hattie Briggs, 21, dropped out of her Russian language course at university to pursue her passion of singing and songwriting. Last year, she was nominated for the Radio 2 Young Folk Award. Hattie describes her music as a mix of mature pop and catchy melody. ‘It’s fairly relaxed and quite personal,’ she says. I ask if the same is true of her style. ‘My style is a blend, like my music. I have a lot of individual pieces with a distinctive feel – retro, vintage, folksy, sporty, modern. I like to mix subtle pieces with something off-the-wall.’ Music is her muse. There […]


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